Be honest to yourself
Look at the different roles you play in your life, and think about where you learned to play those roles, how you suppose to act when you are playing those roles and from whom did you learned them. Think about if that person is a good person to follow. Are they experts? Do they know what they are talking about? OR they just picked what they know, from the people around them, and it was passed down from generation to generation and you agreed to the role and decided to play in the same way. Think about, if there are any roles that do not feel right, and do not feel like you. Those roles may feel like they are suffocating you, and you cannot find out who you really want to be or you really are. Are there any changes that you can play? OR Maybe there are some roles that you do not want to play anymore? SO BE HONEST with yourself and think if there are some changes that you want to make in your life.
Ask yourself who you will be, if you did not have those roles to play. When you answer that question that will help you understand who really are. The more you can bring to the surface the happier and healthier you will be.